A Reflection: know your limits, but do not limit yourself

It took me a very long time to realize it. Tonight, suddenly I remembered the words that were always instilled in (almost) every high-intensity training I attended. Not a worth-reading post yet, but I just wanted to journal my thoughts that often pop up without warning.

At first, when I heard those words, I only thought: this trainer doesn't want his method to fail. We have to accept it when we feel like saying, "I can't do it, sir...", "But sir, if the deadline is on that date, we...", and keep going with their scheme.

But it turns out, not quite. Lately, I started to think about why many people try to "get rid of" problems in their lives. Of course, I'm not trying to say "problems are a consequence of life, blah blah blah..." Of course, that's true, but there is a perception that, in my personal opinion, is wrong when we look at what is called a "problem".

First, we agree that each person's problems will be different. Sleeping in an unwashed condition may not be a problem for me, but it may be the opposite for you, and so on. In life, we often encounter problems, intentionally or not. It may sound stale, but let's first understand that:

/ˈprɑbləm/ /n/
a thing that is difficult to deal with or to understand; something that must be solved (resolved); problem; issue.

Why should it be solved? Because if not, many things will be disrupted, including our own happiness. Problems arise because there are facts that do not match expectations, so they must be balanced by either raising the facts or lowering expectations.

Solved 'diselesaikan' has many meanings. Most people, preventively, try to avoid the problem itself. Securing the comfort zone and maintaining the status quo will be more profitable, won't it?

If not, then according to me, there are two ways to solve the 'problems' that arise:

Get rid of the source of the problem. This falls into the category of lowering expectations (maybe(?)). For example, if you don't want to waste time, then uninstall games and social media that waste time. Erase the core, let yourself free. This perception is not wrong, but not everything can be 'removed'. I understand this very well when circumstances force us to be close to the source of the problem. It is not in line with the ideology of people who are personally very strange, or annoyed with the absurd and illogical system around them. Of course, we cannot directly "eliminate" the person or "overthrow the stakeholder". It would be easier, perhaps, but unnecessary.
Increase self-capacity. This means raising facts towards expectations. We expand ourselves, creating more and more capability to deal with problems. When we are unable to eliminate something that we consider to be the root of the problem, the solution is to make ourselves peaceful with that root problem. Change our perception, expand our point of view, appreciate and tolerate differences. This can be an alternative solution to the limitations of the first method. The term is... deal with reality. In short, it may seem like, "So, what should we do?" but silently something changes within us.

When we are already at the 'limit' of ourselves, the furthest boundary of our nature and thinking, but the solution to the problem is still far away, then the only way is to expand our foothold and not limit ourselves.

If I may elaborate, the sentence would be like this:

"Know your limits, but do not limit yourself. Expand your self-capacity and loosen those boundaries until you can achieve all"